Dad Wonders Why Son Who Wore Dress To School Was Bullied

Being a kid has never been so confusing, and parents aren’t exactly making things easier.

Parents today seem to think that their jobs are to give their children whatever they want, no matter what. Now, this isn’t a new phenomenon, but it used to be limited to things like candy bars at the grocery store, or a toy of some sort.

Sometimes parents are asked absurd things like “can I eat cake for dinner,” or “can I jump off the roof and try to fly”, to which the response should be “no”. The reason is, parents are supposed to protect, and guide their children to make decisions that ultimately improve their lives.

While this shouldn’t even have to be explained, the fact is there are a lot of parents who are doing a god-awful job of putting their kids in the best positions to succeed. Enter, this father.

A dad took to reddit to ask “am I the a******?” in regards to him allowing his young son to wear a dress at school. You just have to read this to believe it:

My son started second grade last week. I get the kids ready for school while my wife sleeps (she’s got a graveyard shift).

He’s got a twin sister. I told them both it was time to get ready for school and his twin sister pulled a bunch of dresses out of her closet. My son picked one up and said “I want to wear this.” I’m thinking, whatever dude, we’re running late just put some kind of clothes on and let’s get out the door. I’m pretty politically neutral so while I wouldn’t say I was particularly happy he wanted to wear a dress, it also wasn’t nearly as upsetting to me as the idea that I could be late for work if we didn’t get out the door.

I figured ok, I wouldn’t ever tell my daughter not to do something because it wasn’t ladylike so I shouldn’t tell my son not to do something because it isn’t manly.

I drop him off and get to work. Three hours later we get a call to come pick up our son because his outfit is distracting to the other kids and he’s being bullied. He was very sad when my wife got there and the whole morning had been upsetting for him.

My wife is irate asking how I couldn’t have realized that was inappropriate and I was setting our son up to fail. So is just about everyone else I’ve run this by. My wife thinks damage has been permanently done because he’ll be in the same school system as these kids the rest of his life and he’ll be known as “the one who wore a dress” and I was being thoughtless or willfully ignorant because I was in a rush and our son suffered for it.

At the time, I truly didn’t think it was that big a deal, but that doesn’t change that I put my son in harm’s way so now I’m not sure whether I made the wrong decision or not or how to feel about it.

There are numerous things wrong with this man’s thought process, but let’s focus on a few.

“I’m thinking, whatever dude, we’re running late just put some kind of clothes on and let’s get out the door”

You know how people defend bad parenting with “people are busy”? This is it. Parents should be intentional with their kids. They aren’t animals holding you up. Treating them as such leads to problems, which is what happens here.

“I’m pretty politically neutral so while I wouldn’t say I was particularly happy he wanted to wear a dress, it also wasn’t nearly as upsetting to me as the idea that I could be late for work if we didn’t get out the door.”

Grab a pair of shorts and a t-shirt, guy. Unless your son is 300 pounds, it shouldn’t take much of an effort to have him change in the car. But hey, you didn’t want to be late for work…

“I figured ok, I wouldn’t ever tell my daughter not to do something because it wasn’t ladylike so I shouldn’t tell my son not to do something because it isn’t manly.”

What happens when his kid tries to use a tampon? Is he going to tell him “those are for girls”? I sure as hell hope so, but now I’m not so sure. Sometimes, things are for boys, and sometimes they are for girls. Dresses fall in the girl category.

“I drop him off and get to work. Three hours later we get a call to come pick up our son because his outfit is distracting to the other kids and he’s being bullied.”

Wait, you mean to tell me that normal kids made fun of your son in a dress? Wow, I am shocked… SHOCKED I TELL YOU!

Dude, what did you think would happen? Elementary school kids make fun of you for using the bathroom too loud. They make fun of kids who fart. What did this dad think would happen when his kid showed up in a dress?

“My wife is irate asking how I couldn’t have realized that was inappropriate and I was setting our son up to fail. So is just about everyone else I’ve run this by.”

Sounds like this guy is the only one unaware of his mistake. You let your son wear a dress. The kid probably used to eat dirt. Did this dad encourage that? Is he going to tell him to huff paint, too?

Kids make stupid decisions all the time. Parents are supposed to do their part in making sure these kids don’t royally screw themselves, and their future. Now, this kid gets to go through the rest of his schooling as “the boy who wore a dress”.

Odds are, if he goes to college, classmates might follow. That means the story continues, thus continuing to ruin his life. All because some dad didn’t want to say “hey son, those are your sisters’ dresses”.

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